Hello, amazing readers! 👋
Have you ever noticed how your habits reflect the people you spend time with? Chapter 9 of Atomic Habits unpacks the profound influence of family and friends on our behaviors. The third law of behavior change is “Make It Social.”
We Are Social Creatures
“One of the deepest human desires is to belong.”
Clear highlights that we unconsciously mimic the habits of three groups:
- The Close: Family and friends.
- The Many: Our communities.
- The Powerful: People we admire or aspire to be like.
By aligning our habits with those around us, we reinforce our sense of belonging. However, this can be both a blessing and a curse.
Practical Strategies to Harness Social Influence
1. Join a Group Where Your Desired Behavior is the Norm:
- Activity: Identify groups that already practice the habit you want to adopt.
- Example: If you want to eat healthily, join a fitness club or follow healthy-living influencers.
2. Be the Change in Your Circle:
- Activity: Share your goals with your close ones and invite them to join.
- Example: Start a morning jogging routine with your friends or family.
3. Leverage Accountability Partners:
- Activity: Partner with someone who shares your goals to keep each other on track.
- Example: Set daily check-ins or celebrate milestones together.
Self-Experiment: Aligning Your Social Circle
Step 1: Assess your current circle—are they helping or hindering your goals?
Step 2: Spend more time with people who embody the habits you desire.
Step 3: Observe how your actions and mindset shift over the next two weeks.
Final Thoughts
Your environment is a reflection of your relationships. Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you, and watch how your habits align with your aspirations.
Who inspires you the most? Let me know in the comments! Let’s grow together. 🌱